Letter to future soninlaws parents

Understand me, I already love you more than I’m able to adequately express. But the power and role you will one day have in my daughter’s life can strike up more fear in my heart than I’ve ever been prepared to deal with. Sooner or later, if all goes well, she will get engaged.

So, in anticipation of that eventuality, I have drafted a letter to my future son-in-law, with some words of advice about what they’re getting themselves into. My letter to Hampton was for his eyes only, but below is a letter I’ve crafted for you as an example that you can use for ideas. I wanted to start off by saying thank you. Thank you for raising your son to be the man he is today, thank you for raising him in the manners and love of others.

I may or may not know you yet, but know that you have done these things because I would not be marrying him otherwise. My prayer is that you are a man who puts God first. I pray that you develop such a deep and intimate relationship with the Lord that you just want to continue to pursue him every single day. Invite God into the core of your marriage and seek Him in all things.

Start with a direct statement of welcome. Provide information about yourself and the family that will help the reader become better acquainted. Offer any help or assistance the newlyweds might need that you are willing and able to give. Express anticipation of a good relationship in the future. When it comes to meeting your child’s future in-laws, don’t get hung up on “who should call whom first.

If her parents are divorce first write to the family who predominately raised her. Write a second letter to the other parent or parent and spouse afterward. Begin your letter by introducing yourselves as their daughter’s future in-laws.

During the planning on my own wedding, which if I admit was only weeks, I didn’t have the time or perspective to really be able to communicate the love and appreciate I had for my future mother and father in law. Writing a personal letter to a prospective son-in-law or daughter-in-law can establish an open, friendly relationship with him or her. The letter should communicate unqualified acceptance.

Dear Son, My daughter is head-over-heels in love with you so you are. You will be the father of my grandchildren, and very much a well-accepted part of our family. The way you initially address your parents -in-law can have a lasting effect on them and can shape the future of your relationships.

Every family is unique, so here are some basic guidelines of etiquette to keep you in safe territory until you figure out what works best in your own extended family. And while it might be the easiest choice, having your parents and your future in-laws come to visit for multiple days at the same time is a lot of pressure with no easy escape plan. Luckily, being a morning person came naturally to me — but there were times in life at which that was challenge of course. During college and grad school, a lot of late nights inevitably led to my wanting to sleep in and stay in bed as long as physically possible. For us, you’re more than just a son=-in-law – we hope this mutual admiration continues forever.

God gave us the great gift of you. We are proud to have a man like you as our son in law. I’m proud of my daughter’s choice because we couldn’t have got a better son in law than you. They live about two hours away from us. It seems irresponsible not to point out areas where they may struggle as a couple, but on the other han if they marry, I don’t want our son-in-law to always remember that we had some concerns.

As your dad and I fade into the background of your life I want to tell you it has been a privilege to have you as our son. Writing a letter allows you to reread and rewrite your thoughts if you want. You can share your story and feelings without interruption.

Your parents will have time to process and respond thoughtfully and calmly. I am the groom) to thank her for everything she has done for me and my future bride and I am not very good at putting my thoughts into words.