Wednesday, May 26, 2021

Where does an ex wife sit at a funeral

Where to sit at a funeral service? Can I sit in the row with my deceased ex wife? Who should sit in the row with the ex wife? If you haven’t maintained a relationship with your ex’s family for any reason, and you have children, you may attend the funeral but sit with your children in the back. Someone from the family may ask your children to join them, but don’t expect them to put aside their grief to make you feel welcome.


Once this is done you can sit down.

If there is not a viewing prior to the funeral service, you can sit down in a chair , aisle , or pew as soon as you arrive. Try to remain silent. Unless you have a particularly close relationship with your former in-laws – or you are accompanying children who need your presence – do not sit near the front. It’s acceptable and expected for her to sit with her children.


She is there as support for them. It is not appropriate for the ex-wife to sit in the row intended for immediate family unless she is specifically invited to do so. For the most part, the first few rows of seating are designated for family only, with immediate family (and spouses or significant others) sitting in the very first row and extended family members sitting behind them. Other than these general seat arrangements, there are no other rules in terms of where to sit at a funeral or memorial service.


Ok, I am having a hard time with this it has hapened twice already.

My husbands Aunt and Grandmother died. His Grandmother most recently. Well, at the funeral his Ex - wife insisted on sitting with the family. She made a huge scene about it actually.


Attending Funeral Services: Be respectful. Don’t chat with those around you or eat or drink anything. If relations between you have been cordial, then your attendance and sympathies may be appreciate although it is respectful to sit a discreet distance away from the close family mourners. If your relationship with the family is cordial and you wish to pay your respects, by all means, attend the service. And then make sure your ex spouse or someone your children are comfortable with will attend to their needs.


Remember that the most important issue regarding seating at a funeral or memorial service is that family members and close friends have a place to sit in the front and don’t have to argue or negotiate for a seat. At the same time, those sitting in the front should not be surrounded by empty seats. Having a state funeral.


In case they choose so, State Department manages the full protocol of the event. In almost all states, family members and spouses are the ones with the most rights. A husband or wife has more rights than a parent or chil and an adult child has more rights than a parent. Funeral etiquette is complicated even under the most traditional of family circumstances, so when you throw in blended families and issues related to divorce and remarriage, things can quickly become tangled up.


Most situations are unique. For those who are contemplating on what they should do in respect of their ex spouse, do what the situation merits. Though there are no rules for managing complex relationships at a funeral or memorial service, it’s usually a good idea to go with your gut.

If there is animosity between you two, maybe it is best not to attend the funeral. It’s also important to consider the feelings of others, and to remember that, for the most part, having the support of others at the service can make a grieving family feel loved and cared for. Bob, my ex -husban died a week into the new year.


He had battled health issues for years, but hadn’t been in the hospital. At my mothers funeral I had my best friends sit with me on either side for support, my mother would be glad that I had support through the difficult time. Gifting a bouquet of sympathy flowers is an ideal way to express your condolences, and would be much appreciated by the family.


Should I bring a gift? In all of these cases Jewish law holds that although there is no absolute obligation to sit shiva and say Kad­dish, it certainly is permissible and commendable to do so.

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